The Yin To My Yang
I moved to LA a year and a half ago with nothing but a suitcase to my name. I quickly became exhausted from being set up on not only blind dates but “girlfriend” dates as well. I was on the tipping point of coming to peace with the over dramatic feeling that I was going to be alone, forever. No boyfriend. No side kick. No wing woman. I even seriously contemplated buying a fish so there would be some form of life waiting for me to come home. Thankfully enough, that all changed one day when my best friend from college called and shouted into the phone,“I FOUND YOU A CALIFORNIA VERSION OF ME! YOU TWO WILL LOVE EACH OTHER! EXCEPT, DON’T LET HER REPLACE ME. SERIOUSLY.” As a vulnerable smile came across my face I agreed and said, “Ok, Jess–whatever you say, I trust you. Connect us and I will see if she wants to get together.” Fast forward two weeks, a hello hug and smoothie date were checked off the list. Before either of us took a second to blink we were attached at the hip and a new friendship had been sealed. As time ticked away it was crystal clear that we defined to be each other’s yin to our yang. My new friend hadn’t cried since she came out of the womb and I cry at least 4 times a week, mainly due to sappy TV commercials or a viral proposal video. She tends to keep her thoughts and feelings buried deep down unlike me who is the first to open their mouth 99.9% of the time. She doesn't own a hairbrush, or knows how to pronounce the word ‘m-a-s-c-a-r-a” due to her jaw dropping natural beauty and I’m over here wiping out my Sephora rewards member card as if it’s Willy Wonka’s golden ticket. She is utterly amazed at my color-coded closet and I am genuinely confused by her lack of celebrity knowledge. Her fly by the seam of her pants approach to life gives me serious anxiety and my ten times forgiving heart makes her shake her head. I add a dose of sunshine to our daily journey as she drizzles on a sense of reality. Our eyes hardly meet in any given situation which some may view as an issue, however, I view it as an insanely cool blessing. Michelle has taught me many things but the biggest lesson I take away from our friendship is that opposites truly do attract. The notion of opposite falls under the same umbrella as the unknown, it’s scary yet incredibly necessary. I have learned that there are some things that are better not to question. If someone in your life is everything that you are not yet still holds a special place in your heart, consider yourself a lucky one. No matter if this person plays the role of your best friend, your dog walker or future husband - recognize the invaluable worth because I sure have and I will forever be thankful the universe brought me my sister from the stars.