Since the days of our first steps we have been injected with the mindset of “when you are ready.”
When you are ready … you can get your ears pierced
When you are ready … you can go to sleep away camp
When you are ready … you can get a cellphone
When you are ready … you can date
When you are ready … you can get a debit card
Well hate to break to the news to you but none of us are truly “ready.” I think it’s a terrible thing in life to wait until we’re ready. I feel that actually no one is every ready to do anything in life. There is almost no such thing as ready, there is only now. This moment. This time. This opportunity. So, why is everyone waiting until they are ready? Ready for what? In full disclosure I don’t think I have been ready for anything in my life. Was I ready to take my driver license test? Nope. I failed. But since then I have fully stopped at every stop sign that as ever come my way. How about leaving for college? Absolutely not. I secretly cried more tears the day my parents dropped me off then my first day of PreK, but holy hell did I end having the time of my life. Ready to start dating? Ha. I’m 25 years old and still not ready for all things that dating encompasses but that hasn't stopped me from playing real life “The Bachelorette.” Was I ready to move to the city of angels? Let me think … no, no and no but has it taught me irreplaceable life lessons? Yes, yes and yes.
So let me as ask you this, who and what determines “ready” for you? Your spouse? Your savings account? Your mom? Your color coded agenda? Whatever it is, throw it out the window. Seriously. Pick it up, mentally or physically and throw it away. The mindset of waiting until you are “ready” will only make you miss the opportunities or people standing directly in front of you.
Selena Gomez tells us “when you’re ready, come and get it” so if you don’t want to listen to me then listen to her because you, my friend, ARE ready and the only thing standing in your way is you. Don’t let a magazine horoscope, a lack of funds, a current relationship, a jealous friend or that knot in your stomach steer you away from what you really want. If you want it, make it happen. If you don’t, then keep waiting until your ready.