Chat With Chels: It's not always guys night
Hey Chelsea: I am absolutely in love the guy I'm dating, he’s amazing to me. But, I have a lingering issue ... his friends. Two of them in particular, ugh. One of them is a single player who thinks every night should be “guy’s night” and the other one blatantly cheats on his girlfriend, how awful right? So, my problem is that even though I love and trust my boyfriend his friends make me doubt him.
What would you do?
Thank you for your help.
xo - Threes a crowd
Dear threes a crowd: Oh girl, I want to smack your boyfriends’ friends right upside the head, ha! I have a few thoughts on this …
1. I believe that when dealing with a situation like this the first thing you need to do is communicate directly with your boyfriend. Bring your feelings to his attention and let him know how his friends make you feel – he may be able to provide a solution or at best it will allow him the opportunity to express his side of the situation. Also, keep in mind that regardless of your approval these are his friends so don't go full blown crazy on him - keep the bashing / complaining to a minimum ;)
2. An immediate fix would be to back off on how much you surround yourself with his friends since spending too much time with people you don’t get along with will only make things worse. The next time your BF invites you to hang out with those two in particular I would simply politely decline.
3. Most importantly, don’t let this get in the way of you two as a couple. If your man is as loving and trust worthy as you say, then his friends should not make or break your relationship.
Sending you good vibes for your chat!
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