Chat With Chels: I'm Jealous Of My Best Friend
Hi Chelsea: I’m a little embarrassed as I write this. Before I make myself sound like an awful person know that I love my best friend but as of lately I’m having a hard time dealing with her life accomplishments. She has always had the perfect career, something I’m still struggling to find. On top of that she just got engaged to her dream man. Truth is, I’m completely jealous and feel like my emotions are starting to come in between years’ worth of friendship. How do I snap out of this? I want to be able to drink mimosas with her without feeling I’m ten steps behind in life.
Any piece of advice would be helpful.
Thank you so much
- Green eyed monster
Dear green eyed monster: Jealousy within friendships has been around since the beginning of time so for starters, you are not an awful person. However, I am here to shed a little reminder; friendship is not a competition. There is nothing worse than accomplishing or experiencing a monumental life moment only to have a friend suck the soul out of it due to jealousy. When you get the big job promotion or when your dream man gets down on one knee, you would want her jumping up and down with you – right? I know it’s hard, trust me, I have had to swallow that same large pill but in effort to keep yourself sane and enjoy your brunch dates with her it’s imperative that you understand that your path is your own. If you seem to be going faster than your best friend or 15 miles slower, it’s ok. Cherish your journey and the finish line will be that much sweeter.
Sending you a dose of confidence
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