4 Things To Let Go Of
The other day I picked up the phone in a panic to call one of my best friends. The second she heard the tone in my voice she asked me what was wrong. Without batting an eyelash I blurted out the words, “I’m worried.”
About what she asked? As if I had been waiting for someone to ask me that question all day, I spit fired off answers left and right. The thing was, I woke up that morning holding the worry feeling in my chest. I was worried about being in a new city and the million emotions that came with that life leap. After talking my friend’s ear off, our conversation came to an end. I poured myself a cup of tea, let out a sigh and reached for the nearest piece of paper. I wrote a list of things that I needed to stop worrying about, immediately. If you tend to suffer from being a worry wart, I’m sharing with you 4 things to stop worrying about for the sake of your sanity….
1. Being A Stereotype
There I was, standing in the Starbucks line impatiently waiting to order my Skinny Vanilla latte with almond milk. My blonde hair was in perfect beach waves and I was wearing bigger than life sunglasses because clearly my eyes needed to be protected from the mass amount of sunshine inside the coffee shop. I took a moment to look up from my phone to check out those around me and within in seconds it was clear as day that I should have had basic bitch tattooed across my forehead because I reeked of it. I let out a sublet laugh under my breath and contemplated slowly sneaking out the door because I all the sudden I felt self-conscious about the yoga pants I was wearing. The stubborn side of my personality chimed in and told me to stay in that line until I had my coffee order in hand and I could walk out the door with a hair flip.
I use the above silly example in all seriousness to drive home a point to never be afraid to be yourself, even if being yourself throws you directly into a pile of stereotypes. Be that stereotype with pride and don’t let those passing you on the street have the power to make you feel a certain way. Take your selfies, wear your flower crown, sip on kombucha and live your best life. Remember, no matter what “category” you fall into, people will always pass their judgments so you might as well feel your best while they do so.
2. Watching The Clock
Ah yes, the unspoken timeline of life. First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage.
With job promotions, house buying, romantic engagements and baby announcements filling our social media feeds at approximately 125 MPH emotions are bound to be stirred. No matter what side of the fence you are on, people will always bark questions into your ear. When I was wearing my single AF shoes and someone would ask me why I didn’t have a boyfriend, I wanted to bang my head against the wall. Fast forward to present day, I haven’t even picked out the flowers for my wedding bouquet yet the when will we have babies question makes me want to bang my head against a wall. My biggest advice: don’t bang your head against a wall. Another piece of advice is to know your audience when responding. Know the appropriate time to kill them with kindness and give a politically correct answer with a big smile on your face. At the same time, know when you can sprinkle a little sass onto your answer in hopes that they get the picture to back off on the questions.
3. Being A Failure
Being in a new city has sparked the what if mind game.
What if I fail at making new friends?
What if I fail at finding my niche here?
What if I fail at booking local opportunities?
As I sit down writing my list I realized that there’s a high chance those what if’s will happen because that’s a part of life, falling down 7 times to stand up 8. Regardless of what stage of life you are in, one of the worst things you can do to your present self and future self is to let fear sync in and paralyze you. The reality is, we will all fail. What sets us apart from each other is how we deal with the failure. The positive side of failure that tends to forever be swept under the rug is that when you fail, you grow and with growth comes the opportunity to learn and move forward. Fail and then brush your shoulders off, I dare you.
4. Carrying The Weight Of The World
You know those days where you feel the weight of the world is crashing down on you because you don’t have it all figured out.
The pressure to have all the answers and have your life figured out to a T is no joke. The secret recipe is being confident in the notion that you do not have to have all the answers. When you’re having one of those days where you feel clinically insane and massively overwhelmed by life have a go to outlet that will help you to release stress and or any negative thoughts.