4 Times It’s Ok To Say No To A Friend:
Friendship is one of the greatest gifts you can ever receive. Finding a soul that grooves with yours no matter what happens in life is hands down one of the most special relationships which is why saying no to one of your ride or dies can be one of the hardest things, ever.
Being in a tight knit friendship makes it difficult to say no but being the friend that always says yes at the expense of their own is not a cute look. Like anything in life, balance is key, and is something you should always strive to maintain. Before you dive into the rest of this post know that, as always, there are exceptions to the “rule” but the point being made here is to know when to put your foot down and realize the difference between being taken advantage of and being a friend.
4 Times It’s Ok To Say NO To A Friend:
The “I’ll Pay You Back”
Money is always a topic that can be hard to dance around but if you have a friend that repeatedly pulls the “I’ll pay you back, I promise” and somehow forgets time and time again – keep your wallet in your pocket from now on. You work damn hard for your income and you should never feel guilty for not handing out dollar bills as if it’s free candy.
The “Sober Sally”
If you are the dubbed sober sally in the group rest assure that should not automatically make you the groups designated driver. If your friend is constantly tossing you the car keys while they shoot back another shot before stumbling out of the bar it’s ok to say no and inform your friend about this genius new invention called Uber. Express to them that just because you aren’t racking up a bar tab doesn’t mean you always want to deal with driving around town.
The “It Will Be Fun”
Regardless of your age, peer pressure is still a thing. Saying no to the friend that is forever pushing you to do things that are outside of your moral comfort zone is a must. A friend should know you well enough to know your mindsight and understand your view points to know whether or not their actions will offend you. Regardless of how many times the phrase, “but come on, it will be fun” comes out of their mouth – if it doesn’t settle well with you, don’t do it.
The “I’ll Go Home Later”
Mi casa es su casa…..but with boundaries. At the end of the day, it is still YOUR home and your friends should respect your space. Having a friend that basically lives on your couch, eats your pantry dry and doesn’t get the hint to go back to their own 4 walls can totally cramp your style. The next time they tell you they are coming over let them know that now is not a good time. In turn you need to set boundaries or they will be made for you. For example, have a schedule with your girlfriends that every third Thursday of the month is girl’s night in at your place. That way your door remains open but with a sense of control.
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