The One Word That Will Make Or Break Your Relationship
Before I stood at the alter exchanging wedding vows I had my fair share of past relationship experiences. Even though each relationship was vastly different from each other, each had common factors: tears, uncertainty flooding through my bloodstream and restless nights full of anxiety. Even though those elements alone should have been a waving red flag – I did what most of us tend to do, put my blinders on and looked past them with a skewed vision of hope waiting on the other side.
I have gone to my mom for relationship advice / vent sessions since as long as I can remember. She has dried my crocodile broken hearted tears and talked me through some of the worst breakups of my life. The one thing that always stuck with me is her telling me that “you will know you are in the right relationship because it will simply be easy.”
No, not THAT “easy” – never be easy in that regards. She was referring to a relationship full of trust and one that didn’t require analyzing text messages, forced happiness or begging for crumbs that he would throw whenever was convenient for him. What a mind blowing concept, huh?
Not to turn all Disney princess fairytale on you but I truly never understand what she meant by that until Robby and I reconnected. Things with him and I were easy from the get go. Regardless of the miles and years between us, it seemed to just work. I remember laying there one night with his right arm holding me tight thinking THIS is what my mom has been talking about all these years.
EASY is the magic word that will make or break your relationship. Does that mean that relationships don’t require work? Hell no. They require work, every single day BUT that work shouldn’t leave you exhausted or drained. Share your time, energy, love, faith, and dreams with someone who brings a sense of calmness to your life as opposed to bringing an instant weight on your shoulders.