It’s no secret that our generation is constantly being looked at through a microscope as if we are unknown creatures roaming the planet earth. We are the “selfish generation” the that generation, the this generation and ‘millennial experts’ have a field day trying to crack our ways, especially when it comes to dating. Dating: the most confusing thing that you will encounter in your twenties. – source: Chelsea Briche
We have been born into a generation where romance is measured by how quickly he deletes Tinder off of his phone and how many kissy face emojis are sent to us before we sip on our first cup of coffee. We have been brainwashed to go somewhere romantic only to take a ‘candid’ selfie to then immediately post on Instagram yet we would rather stick a fork in our eyeballs then reveal the fight we had with our significant other at 3AM because that is so not #RelationshipGoals.
Do I even dare to venture down the path of ‘commitment?’ I bet if you walked up to 10 strangers on the street each of them would have a different definition of what commitment means to them. How did this happen? How did we let such a powerful and beautiful word transform into a word that gives our generation flu like symptoms when brought up? Honestly you guys, I have no idea. I’m sure we could each point a finger a hundred different ways but that wouldn’t get us very far.
Yes, this is the world we date in now but that does not mean that you need to wave your white flag and surrender to it.
If you are not ok with searching for or being the next quick hit, don’t be. If you are not ok with living your relationship(s) in a 45 second snap chat story, don’t. If you are craving more than Netflix and chilling then don’t sit your pretty ass on his couch. If you daydream of a guy that is attentive enough to remember the favorite color of your favorite flower or a life that is full of completely unfiltered moments then stop settling for anything else.
We get so caught up in the validation of others #perfectcouple that we forget the actual point of even being in a relationship. So, before you line your lips and perfect your mascara stand in front of the mirror and ask yourself if this one will build a life full of honesty and respect or will it be a love that gets discarded for the next.
With harsh love,
“You’re not the type of girl that settles, keep not settling.”