How To Handle Those Baby Questions
Remember all those times where you wanted to scream when people would ask, “when are you and so and so getting engaged? HUH? HUH?” Fast forward time and there you are – saying your I Do’s thinking that you finally have your social circle off your back. SPOILER ALERT: you my friend are wrong, so wrong. The moment you walk back up the aisle as a married woman is the moment the flood gates re-open and those around you feel like they have been handed the golden ticket to ask you about the B word. The light switch is flipped to the ON position and all the sudden people feel this weird entitlement to ask you when you’re going to get pregnant. The question so casually rolls off their tongue as if they are simply asking, “what time is it?” Invading one’s private life with in an invasive question has become so socially acceptable that hardly anyone thinks twice about doing so.
While Robby and I are still soaking in our newlywed bliss, the overwhelming question of when will we be adding a member to our team has been coming at lightning speed. To answer everyone’s question: WE DO NOT KNOW. I could go on a novel tangent on what compiles the big question mark but since it’s really none of your business we will make sure to post an adorable and well thought out photo on IG. OK? Ok. Great.
wow, that was sassy. Moving right along …..
If you too have people breathing down your neck about when you’ll be switching the focus of your life to diapers and baby wipes here is what you need to know on how to handle those awkward baby questions.
Tell Them How You Really Feel
“Hm, I’m not sure Aunt Susan – but I’ll for sure keep you updated on mine and my husband’s sex life”
“Oh! So happy you asked! I’ll let you know THE SECOND we start trying.”
“God bless, you are the 158th person that has asked me this week and honestly it’s driving me insane”
Ok. Well, maybe don’t tell them how you REALLY feel! LOL
You know the phrase, “kill ‘em with kindess” apply that here. The next time you’re asked when you and yours are going to have a baby, smile and politely provide a short answer: “not yet!” or better yet, make some sort of joke. At the end of the day, it is ONLY you and your partner’s business. Not your mothers, not your friends, not your next door neighbor who’s name you can’t remember nor is it your co-workers. Handle the question with grace and if you need to be a little firm in your response that’s ok too! Also, rest assure that the question isn’t coming from a bad place.
In summary, however you are feeling about people asking you when your belly is going to become home to a human – it’s ok. If you’re waiting on pins and needles for someone to ask, great! If you’d rather stick pins and needles in you then discuss that question, great! Either way- know that the path you choose for you and your family is your own and you should never feel obligated to discuss a personal matter if it makes you uncomfortable.
Ok, that’s all. Go make out with your hubby or refill your BC. To each their own ;)