5 Ways To Know If You Have A Good Relationship With Yourself
Life is one balancing act after the other and keeping all your relationships thriving can, sometimes, feel like a heavy weight. Between making sure your partner is happy, enjoying time with friends and working your a$$ off so your boss doesn’t look for a replacement -there tends to be one relationship that is thrown on the back burner.
The relationship with yourself.
The ironic thing about that is, the relationship you have with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have and it should be the one handled with the utmost care!
So, today, we are going to take a minute to ourselves and look at 5 different ways to know if you’re in a good relationship with yourself.
1. You Put Yourself First
Selfish is not a dirty word. If I’ve learned anything in the past 27 years it’s to be selfish – to an extent, of course. You know your needs and desires better than anyone else, putting yourself first will ensure they are met. At the end of the day it’s crucial to be your own best friend.
2. You Find Beauty In Your Flaws
Looking in the mirror and loving every single inch of yourself is a powerful thing to feel. Even though it may be one of the hardest tips in the self-love category it’s a key factor to know if you’re in a good relationship with yourself. You know that scene in Mean Girls where the Plastics are standing the mirror nit picking themselves?
“God my hips are huge
Oh please, I hate my calves
At least you guys can wear halters, I have man shoulders
My hairline is so weird
My pores are huge
My nailbeds suck.”
*Cut to Linsey Lohan’s character, “I have really bad breath in the morning”
Even though that dialogue brings instant laughter, think about the underlying message being showcased. Love your huge hips and your shitty nailbeds because those are the “flaws” that make you beautifully unique.
3. You Don’t Use Social Media To Validate
Let’s break this down to the bare minimum:
If you’re in a good relationship with yourself, you post to simply share a moment in your life.
If you’re in a below average relationship with yourself, you post to simply gain validation.
If you fall into the second category stop whatever you’re doing and give yourself a hug and then read this article to help fight the comparing games on social media.
My rule of thumb is this; before posting anywhere on social media ask yourself why am I sharing this with the world? Is it coming from a place of genuinely wanting to connect with others or are you posting so Suzy Q from high-school will comment about how pretty you are because you’re in dire need of that validation? You’re a big girl to understand the difference so, post accordingly.
4. You Indulge In “Me Time”
Taking time out of your busy schedule to take care of yourself is a true indication that you are in a positive relationship with yourself. Whether it’s going for a run or lighting a candle and putting on a face mask it doesn’t matter as long as your showing yourself some TLC.
5. You Aren’t A Gossip Girl
A true sign of knowing if you’re in a good relationship with yourself is evaluating how you speak about others. Remember, “what Susie says of Sally says more of Susie than of Sally.” Don’t be the gossip queen it reeks of insecurity and immaturity.